Grandparents play a vital role in the upbringing of their grandchildren both directly and indirectly. Their significance to grandchildren is evident through the help and support they give to their adult children. In the event a dispute occurs between parents and their children, grandparents play a crucial neutral role in restoring peace and harmony. They, also, provide a much-needed support when parents are too busy to attend to their children.
Having seen it all, grandmas and granddads are best positioned to mediate between children.
Grandparents are parents of your mother or father. So, your father’s mother and father, your mother’s mother and father are all your grandparents. Given their advanced age, grandparents serve as stress buffers arbitrators, roots, and supporters in their children’s families. Besides being historians (they instill ethnic heritage values, teach good morals and pass on important family traditions), they are mentors for their younger grandchildren. Some of them move into their children’s families and hence provide care during the day when their adult children are busy with work activities.
As a historian, a grandparent helps their grandchildren find identity in a broader context. They provide a link to the ancestors, the heads of the family and to the family’s shared history. By sharing stories of the past, they are able to pass on positive values to the next generations.
They serve as cheerleaders by always motivating their grandchildren to develop their dreams and imaginations, nurture their spirits and encourage their intellectual development. They also give grandchildren their self of self-worth.
Even though some grandparents are full-time caregivers for their grandchildren, in most cases, they fill in the gaps. Everyone needs someone who can chip in when the normal child-care plan fails, for example when your child falls too sick to be left in the hands of a house help. Grand-parents best fit this role.
They are playmates to their growing grandchildren and as such act as fresh spectators to the young ones encouraging them to excel in their performance. Since they do not provide day-to-day disciplining, grandparents assume the role of a secret pal and confidant.
Grandparents bring energy, optimism, love, laughter, and purpose to everyone in the family. They, therefore, form a vital part of a grandchild’s life when they are here on the planet. Consequently, parents should take an active role to ensure that there is a loving, fruitful and harmonious relationship between children and their grandparents. Parents should encourage their children to respect, listen to and take seriously the lessons they learn from their granddads and grandmas.
By: Joni Kim